Never Judge A Book By Its Cover

I was taking to a young man recently and to be honest I thought he was a bit on the heavy side and could do with a few sessions in the gym. We were in a queue and we just started chatting and he told me that he had had work and personal difficulties a few years back but he was getting on top of them now. In the height of his troubles his weight had climbed to more than 26 stone (367 pounds)  He then told me that he was now down to just over 16 stone (256 pounds) and having lost that much weight and getting his life together he was quite happy to plough ahead and lose some more. I was annoyed with myself for prejudging him,

Never judge a book by its cover!

It got me thinking about other non-visible stuff. I drive a reasonable sized family car and most of the time there are only two of us in it. To the casual observer we look like people who contribute massively to traffic congestion and the ever increasing hole in the ozone layer. Should we get a smaller car?. Those bystanders cannot possibly see that we have a baby seat permanently installed in the rear seat of the car, the other half of the rear seat is taken by a walking aide and the boot is occupied my wheelchair.

Never judge a book by its cover!

We see someone place a disabled parking badge on the dash and get out of the car and walk away with no apparent disability. This could be a person with MS on a good day but we rarely see that person battling the odds to get back to the car absolutely exhausted and almost crying in pain.

Never judge a book by its cover!

That person that we meet who is always in good humour probably only comes out of the house on good days and that is what we see; we never see the bad days or the black moods or the addiction that is hidden under the surface

Never judge a book by its cover!

It is difficult not to be judgmental as first impressions last. If the cover, or the title, of the book is not eye-catching we probably won’t pick it up. We need to be more understanding. We need to learn to NOT jump to conclusions. We need to learn NOT to assume or presume. We need to learn not to judge a book by its cover but we need to differentiate between the genuine and the disingenuous and that takes more than a cursory glance. We may need to curtail our disapproving looks and comments until we know the full facts. The old adage ‘act in haste, repent at leisure’ comes to mind.

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  1. I agree, we need to try to see as God sees. “God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Sam 16:7b

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